Aunt Judy was a very positive and down to earth woman... she had a way of simply saying what was real without all the sugar coating or drama. My Mom is living with metastasized breast cancer, and she and Judy bonded through this trauma in their lives. They would call each other up and discuss what was going on, their thoughts, their fears, their pains and their medicines. When my Mom couldn't seem to "look up", Judy would say, "Oh just eat a bunch of icecream!" haha! I get tears in my eyes just thinking about that... she figured that if there was nothing else that could be done, find the thing that made you happy, that you were still able to do, and have at it. Then they'd both laugh... and hope together.